so tired

I’m pretty sure I am barely here right now. Here, as in on this Earth. Pregnancy is exhausting and I guess working 14 hour days is not recommended. I have been participating in a conference for the past few days on best practices for non-profits in a similar position to the one I currently work for. It has been really affirming and made me appreciate what I do.

It also made me realize how we should get rid of those who are not in it to win it. We have several employees who are here to be here for a job but are not here to make a difference and it truly is upsetting. Any tactics for inspiring people to work or inspiring them to move on? Advice is appreciated.


Saving Money $$$

As any normal couple with an unplanned pregnancy, saving money is really going to become key in order to make our lives easier. Especially because I will not be making a salary for three months at minimum. NY state does not require paid maternity leave ūüė¶

Some things that we are working on are:

  • Joining Swagbucks. For the last few years I put this off thinking that it would spam me but now that I see it’s so highly reviewed, I finally decided to try it. In just two days I have made 230 Swagbucks! Woot!¬†Click to join¬†Swagbucks here.
  • Personal savings, we made an agreement to contribute a percentage of our earnings to a joint account (in addition to our individual savings). Until we find a good deal for an account, we have been keeping it at home. Any recommendations for banks with deals for opening accounts? Unfortunately, interest rates have not been high recently.
  • Increasing contribution to 401k so that less of our income is subject to taxes (aka bigger tax return next year)
  • Following blogs like Money Saving Mom¬†for coupons and deals.

What did you do to increase your savings for a child? or a house? or any upcoming major life event? Please share below ūüôā

Putting yourself out there

Hello Everyone,

In the midst of trying to figure out my life, this blog has been on the back burner for the last few days because I was working to create my website for my Virtual Assistant business. Because I am trying to be savvy, I started with GoDaddy domain purchasing and hosting. I built my professional website using website builder from GoDaddy. Any suggestions? (Especially from those in the Virtual Assistance world?)

From everything I have read about this career choice, it is so important to put yourself out there and network. Part of the reasoning behind this blog is it being another way for me to get out there and network on the web. As part of my journey, I have also joined several Facebook groups and purchased a book called The Bootstrap VA.

Click here to visit The Bootstrap VA. This book has  been extremely helpful to me in starting out in the Virtual Assistant world. I definitely recommend it to anyone who is interested! I will talk more about this book in a later entry.

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Moving along, I have had a very lovely holiday weekend!

We went out on Saturday for a friend’s birthday brunch at Neely’s Barbeque Parlor. Excellent food and service. I definitely recommend taking a group there!

On Saturday evening in celebration of Valentine’s Day, my fianc√© and I made surf and turf for dinner.


How did you spend your Valentine’s Day? How was your Holiday Weekend (for those of us in the U.S.)?

Thanks for reading!

the importance of being earnest honest

What I value more than anything is honesty. If you can’t be honest about who you are, then how can you really be open to being in any kind of relationship with anyone? because at some point you will be compromising your values and the other person(s) won’t know or understand that and you will just become frustrated that they didn’t.

I know its hard to expect from others and may seem like I am an idealist but maybe I just have high expectations? I have to say that I credit the success of my relationships with the ability to be honest with each other.

Lately, I have been feeling that others do not value this as much, not necessarily in my personal life but in general.


Thoughts? Advice? Comments? Please leave below.

questioning my existence (in my current work environment)

There isn’t much worse than working your ass off and feeling like no one noticed or appreciated it. I fell into the non-profit industry mostly by accident. I have asked myself over the last year and a half, why am I still here?

rest assured

Making a difference? Sure. Helping those less fortunate? Yes. But I realize that I don’t have to work here to do those things. I could always do them on my own. and I have done them in the past in variety of ways before I was even in the working world.

Now I am in the position of thinking about how I will take care of my child in the future and the way I have been treated at work combined with my overwhelming desire to stay at home with him or her makes me question my future at this current job or at any job where I can’t work from home most days.

I need to find a way where I can be in charge of my own work flow, feel appreciated, and take care of what is and will be number 1 to me, my baby. Thus, I have discovered the world of Virtual Assistance-ship.

My experience working in a very small non-profit, if you haven’t done so yourself generally makes you a jack of all trades. I do everything from entering gifts, writing sending acknowledgement letters, soliciting donors, planning events, editing, writing, e-mail client use, social media, mailing, stewardship, vendor relations, researching prospects, public relations, confidential filing, working with wills, trusts, estates, stock gifts, etc.

I think this could translate well into a VA career. What do you think? Thoughts? Advice? Comments? Please leave below.

New Beginnings

It’s 2015, the year I turn 25 and to put it bluntly, I am not where I saw myself 5 years ago – and after much internal conflict along the way – I’m okay with that.

At the end of 2014, my boyfriend and I had checked something off of my bucket list that I was sure wouldn’t happen for at least a few more years.¬†We are going to be parents! Right now I am 4 months pregnant and the first of my friends to have a baby. We got engaged at the end of the year and now I’m a fianc√©e, another bucket list check.

In the spirit of checking things off my bucket list, I decided to start this blog – as it has always been something I wanted to do but could never commit to. So here I am being open with the internet about my life and my goals and I hope you can support me ūüôā

A friend of a friend used this quote in one of her profiles, “trust your struggle” – and it’s been somewhat of a mantra for me. Life doesn’t give you what you can’t handle, it may be a rocky road but as long as you stay positive and keep on moving, nothing can hold you back.

Let me know your thoughts.